I went back to work on Monday after 12 wonderful weeks at home with my daughter.
Ok so when I say wonderful I really am only talking about the time with my beautiful baby, the rest of it started to suck after about 6 weeks. Honestly, I am not one of those people who function well without something I HAVE to do each day (like work). I've never been interested in freelance or working from home because I KNOW myself and I know better.
The first 6 weeks was just a blur trying to figure out the baby and feeding and all that jazz. Plus we had family and friends coming to visit, so there was plenty I HAD to do each day. After the visits tapered off, my sleep schedule got wonky, baby sleeps whenever so I started to sleep whenever, I found 4 am was about the average time for me to actually get in bed to sleep. It worked fine for baby, so I had no motivation to change.
Except...
I hate not having any day left when I get up, and even of you're not answering to anyone about your schedule it just feels off when you get up and 3 hours later the sun goes down.
So here I am SUPER glad to be back at work and have a schedule again, I honestly think it is better for all of us when I am busy. I suppose if I had to be the stay at home parent, I'd find classes or something for baby and I to take to get me (and her) up and out of the house...
As for stay at home dad and baby, they seem to be working out the kinks of not having mom around all day. I pump in the morning while I feed her. I try (usually unsuccessfully) to get her back to sleep before I leave. Then, I pump at work once in the morning, go home for lunch and feed her, then pump at work in the afternoon. This works as long as I am good at communicating when I am leaving for lunch and when I am leaving for the day. If I don't call the second I know I will be later than a few minutes, baby and daddy pay the price of hungry baby.
I plan on being a mindful spouse and not setting unrealistic expectations for dad while he wrangles a relatively high needs baby. I hear stay at home moms complaining about husbands expecting a spotless house and dinner ready and giving them crap about not working (umm children are a TON of work). I don't want to be that person, I'd be pretty resentful if I was staying home and my husband expected that of me.
Although so far he's had dinner either ready or almost ready every night when I get home, I do like that.
Ok so when I say wonderful I really am only talking about the time with my beautiful baby, the rest of it started to suck after about 6 weeks. Honestly, I am not one of those people who function well without something I HAVE to do each day (like work). I've never been interested in freelance or working from home because I KNOW myself and I know better.
The first 6 weeks was just a blur trying to figure out the baby and feeding and all that jazz. Plus we had family and friends coming to visit, so there was plenty I HAD to do each day. After the visits tapered off, my sleep schedule got wonky, baby sleeps whenever so I started to sleep whenever, I found 4 am was about the average time for me to actually get in bed to sleep. It worked fine for baby, so I had no motivation to change.
Except...
I hate not having any day left when I get up, and even of you're not answering to anyone about your schedule it just feels off when you get up and 3 hours later the sun goes down.
So here I am SUPER glad to be back at work and have a schedule again, I honestly think it is better for all of us when I am busy. I suppose if I had to be the stay at home parent, I'd find classes or something for baby and I to take to get me (and her) up and out of the house...
As for stay at home dad and baby, they seem to be working out the kinks of not having mom around all day. I pump in the morning while I feed her. I try (usually unsuccessfully) to get her back to sleep before I leave. Then, I pump at work once in the morning, go home for lunch and feed her, then pump at work in the afternoon. This works as long as I am good at communicating when I am leaving for lunch and when I am leaving for the day. If I don't call the second I know I will be later than a few minutes, baby and daddy pay the price of hungry baby.
I plan on being a mindful spouse and not setting unrealistic expectations for dad while he wrangles a relatively high needs baby. I hear stay at home moms complaining about husbands expecting a spotless house and dinner ready and giving them crap about not working (umm children are a TON of work). I don't want to be that person, I'd be pretty resentful if I was staying home and my husband expected that of me.
Although so far he's had dinner either ready or almost ready every night when I get home, I do like that.
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